Church , life , Musings , Utopian Fantasy Nov 13, 2021 No Comments


What is friendship?
What is friendship to you?

A true friend is often described or viewed as a person who one can always count on in the face of challenges and serious problems. This description comes so naturally that Euripides, a philosopher, once said that friends show their love in times of trouble and not in happiness.

I think that the presence of friends makes our life worthwhile and that the people we call friends truly are measures of our lives. As it is, people already naturally judge others. By the company the keep.

I think the definition of a friend (friendship) needs to be redone, somewhat re-understood from a none “facing challenges and difficulties” point of view. I shall try to do that on here. Friendship, in my opinion, is one of the most important and valuable experiences in human existence. It is a measure of a good person.

I have seen “friend” being interchanged with soulmates many times, but unfortunately, I don’t subscribe to the notion that all friends are soulmates. I know that one has multiple soulmates but in the same breath, I do not believe all one’s friends are their soulmates.

What makes friendship magical?

Friendship is essential for the successful well-being of every person. It is based on the simple rules of trust and honesty.

A friend always offers a shoulder to cry on in case something wrong happens. The reason I am sure that this isn’t an “always” situation is that nobody is always 100% alright. Care is a two-way street and the way friendship is built in the good year of 2020 is that it would only be caring to allow one friend to not be okay enough to be there 24/7. Dealing with oneself is already an uphill task, and making a whole other being to be the 24/7/365 truly does take away from the novelty of the sacrifice of friendship and accords one the opportunity to almost take for granted the presence and choice their friends take to be there for them.

A true friend is never envious of your accomplishments and achievements. It may foster some form of healthy competition, but in my opinion, it should grow a need for one to also accomplish their goals and not necessarily get exactly what their friends have.
With that said, I believe true friendship allows for one to share their points of weakness, their challenges and their goals in an environment of safety and love. This then, in turn, makes one’s friends their accountability partners and confidants.

Friendship thrives in environments of respect and trust. This person respects you and keeps all your secrets. A practical example would be that one can always tell their trusted friend their flaws (and really stupid ideas) and be sure that your revelations are safe and that your friend is laughing at and with you.

Humour is necessary for every relationship I believe.

A friend is there for you in times of need- as a matter of choice and not of necessity. They remind you to smile when you forgot how to and lift you when you cannot lift yourself.

I’m inclined to think that a friend is a person who chooses with you and for you daily.

These summarise what I have learnt about friendship over the years. If you had the chance to create the most alluring and worthwhile friend, what would you include?
Are you the person I have described? Are you any of what you’ve described? I’m sure you can be better, can’t you… can’t we all?
Can you stand the person you are behind closed doors? Do you embody the friend you would want to have?

I sure can be better. But the real question becomes… Are you your friend?

Just be


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